Voice of the Nations: I love you

Karyn Alexander
February 12, 2011

Just three little words can change your world. If you don’t believe me, just try saying them. “I. Love.You.”

It feels good, doesn’t it? Saying these words can immediately lift your mood and give the recipient of these words a gift, too. In loving someone, it forever changes them, and it ultimately changes your heart as well.

Love is a word, an action, and even a chemical released in our brains. Love is sung about, talked about, and it is the stuff movies are made of.

Valentine’s Day is a day for celebrating Love. I ask you, “What is love?”

I know what I think love is, so I decided to ask a few of my friends. Here are my “Love Survey” results:


Love to me is 1 Corinthians 13:4 thru 7

Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. Three things will last forever-faith, hope, and love-and the greatest of these is love.

As for me personally vs. 5 says it all….love keeps no record of being wronged.



“Like” is a feeling.” Love” is most definitely not a feeling; it is sacrifice. Sometimes it is followed by warm and intimate moments you know you don’t deserve. Sometimes it isn’t.

“Love” is not captured by words very well. It is lived out by actions. Christ loves us. “Love” is walking with someone side by side through a lot of things that shape us. Warm and fuzzy good things…difficult, inexpressibly awful things…and managing to be faithful in spite of our feelings. “Love” is living above yourself. It is commitment. It is joy. It is pain.

Love is a choice, not a feeling.


” I think that love is the full surrender of one’s self to another human being. Jesus said that there is no greater love than to lay down your life for a friend. Paul said that a husband should love his wife sacrificially like Christ loved the church, and told wives to submit to their husbands. I don’t believe that love just happens. Love is something that has to be nurtured so that it can grow.



What is love? Here are some of my thoughts. Love is a bond that ties people together through joys and sorrows.

Love builds a person up. It doesn’t tear down. There are more deposits in the emotional bank account than there are withdrawals.

Love is deep, passionate, and intimate. This does not necessarily mean sexual. The bond between a mother and a child is the most intimate.

Love is being present. Not just physically but emotionally.

Love is trust.

Love is the knowing that the other person has your best interest in mind at all times.

Love is being able to say the hard stuff and trust you won’t be ridiculed.

Love doesn’t keep score.

Love is being first on a person’s list, always.

I know God is love.



Sharing time with each other, ( and not slapping them around) ha-ha We had a family project with my daughter when she was in 2nd grade. We had this blank square to write what love meant to our family. People wrote all kinds of stuff. We wrote, “Sharing time with each other”. Everyone said – it was the best one.



Love can be a choice or the emotion all rolled into the obligation and connection you feel with family. With family there is not an option, you love because you are family and you love in spite of knowing the not so wonderful things about the ones you love. With romantic love, it starts out differently and you make a choice when you find a partner to trust and love. Then you find out they are not so perfect but, they realize the truth about you, too. The best part is knowing the flaws and loving someone in spite of the flaws and the comfort that they know your flaws and love you, anyway.



Love is choosing to love another selflessly and sacrificially.


“From a child,

It feels like when you care for someone, they should care for you back.”

Beautiful answers eh? My version of love was a compilation of all these ideas; commitment, sacrifice, and forgiveness. They are all components of love. I think the last statement about someone loving you back is important too because we were designed for love; reciprocal love. A crazy thought came to my mind when I was thinking about reciprocal love and it was a scripture I read, “We love Him, because He first loved us.” What? How can that be? Who is He? Of course, I am talking about God. In the Bible, “He” is the one who pursues and comes for us.

I love that before we loved anyone or anything, we were loved first. Let’s celebrate Valentine’s Day -everyday with the grand thought that we are loved and asked to love back.

I Love You!!!




Karyn Alexander
Executive Director, Winfield House (windfieldhouse.org)

Winfield House brings the good news of Jesus in a practical way, giving hope to God’s people.

Voice of the Nations: Rev. 5:9 “With your blood you purchased men for God from every tribe, people, language and nation.”
Send questions or comments to: KarynBAlexander@aol.com


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